The first thing most people think of when they hear Sex is sexual intercourse or masturbation if they are sexually liberated. However, that is not the case. Sex is an integral part of our overall health and happiness. It is related to the kind and quality of relationships we have, how connected we are with our sexuality and how comfortable we feel in our skin. In short, Sex is related to our emotional, physical and relational well-being.
You don’t have to be having sex or to talk about sex to discuss sexual wellness. It is one of those things that you can master for when the right time comes. It is neither about learning how sex should be or how to have sex, but rather about getting diverse and accurate perspectives that will empower someone to pursue their own sexual wellness journeys.
Viewing Sexual Wellness as an important part of one’s overall wellness and happiness is a lot like how mindfulness was viewed as an elitist and foreign aspect to many. It is therefore important to create conversations around it especially because there have been many misconceptions, myths and even shame associated with sex and sexuality that has in turn led to inaccurate and unhealthy conclusions of our sexuality. These negative and unhealthy conclusions then impact negatively on our relationships, and quality of life. Here are some tips for sexual wellness
Talk About Sex
Mostly because of how we were brought up where sex was a taboo topic, we have created an inhibition in us that does not allow us to talk about sex freely. It is however important first for you, then for your partner and relationship; to talk about your sexual needs and interests. This will help us enjoy sex more and lead to overall wellness both sexually and otherwise.
Schedule for Sex
Living in a fast- paced life has made us very busy people who will not get things done unless they are part of a planned schedule or to do list. It is therefore good for us to schedule time for sex occasionally. This will not only ensure that you have time for it, but also that it is not hurried or rushed but it is done in an enjoyable way with no time constraints. It may sound like a turn off at first, but as soon as you get used to it, you will look forward to it.
Look after yourself
This means that if you experience any pain or discomfort when having sex, you should ensure that you go get checked. Painful sex is not normal, and it only makes it harder to have sex and to enjoy as it makes it harder to relax. Everyone deserves pleasure. It is the key ingredient to discover oneself sexually and it allows for playfulness and exploration.
Safety is important in the quest for sexual and overall wellness. You should ensure that your safety needs are met during intimacy. This also means that you have to trust the people you are being intimate with.
Hygiene cannot be ignored for optimal sexual wellness. Ensure that you are clean and fresh even if it means using vaginal washes (if they are for you). This does not only apply to women but men alike. Shaving is key when observing the hygiene aspect. This is especially important if you like your partner to go down on you.
Watch what you eat and drink
There are people who swear on drinking alcohol or taking drugs for enhanced performance. This is however not a lasting solution as it could affect fertility levels in the long run. Make it a norm to choose the right foods that either boost your mood or make you healthier. These choices affect your PH level, performance, mood among others. Frequent alcohol intake and drug taking is not a lasting solution.
Be real not fake
Realness means that if you do not enjoy something, say it. It also means not faking an organism to please your partner. It is only proper to communicate and try to find a solution for it.
Always have an open mind. Know what you like, be ready to explore with your partner and satisfy them. For some people self-exploration through acts such as masturbation helps them know what makes them reach an orgasm for instance. It is good to leave any sexual inhibitions for both partners to enjoy lovemaking.0